Monday, August 22, 2016

What's next after 14 years of marriage?

We celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary tomorrow and it seems surreal that we've been married that long. I forget how young we were - my sweetpea called me at work and said, "Hello Ms. I'm conducting a survey and want to know what have been your top three moments with daddy?" I wanted to pry, but I didn't and played along, so I told her my top three would be: the first time I met and chatted with him at Rene's birthday party, the day we got married, and the day(s) we became parents. She responded with, "thank you for your time, have a lovely day" and hung up before I could say anything more.
She made me smile as I reflected on those moments and so I thought I would share some things I've come to realize over the last 14 years.

  • It takes constant work - seriously you can't slack in a marriage, especially if you have kids and the moment you think you have it all figured out, something changes. Some days are simply more challenging for whatever reason, but at the end of the day there is nothing better than seeing the one you love.
  • I love traveling and exploring with my husband - we've been lucky enough to travel throughout our marriage, some heavily planned and others spur of the moment and I love each moment, even when something doesn't turn out the way we planned or expected. 
  • You have to be vulnerable - even after 14 years of marriage I still struggle with this one and yes even with my hub, to speak your truth can make you feel so naked and exposed, but there is no guarantee in life and to live with an open heart, I have to be vulnerable, even if it is one conversation at a time.
  •  Always make time for silliness and laughter - with everything that life throws at you with schedules, work, kids and balancing it all sometimes I forget to add that bit of humor or just plain silliness to our lives.
  • Lift each other up 
So what's next after 14 years of marriage? Well let's just say, I look forward to many more years with my guy - he is a dreamer, a wonderful father, my rock and all I need. I look forward to more adventures that come our way. Happy Anniversary!





Sunday, August 21, 2016

Water is Life

This weekend we drove up to Cannonball, North Dakota to stand with Standing Rock Reservation against the Dakota Access Pipeline and what an incredible experience to witness and briefly be part of; we definitely want to go back.
The controversial pipeline is in encroaching into Native Territory and would go under the Missouri River, which if broke would be an environmental disaster. "The tribe's water supply is threatened by construction of the Dakota Access pipeline, which was permitted by the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers in late July despite objectives of three federal agencies including Environmental Protection Agency, the Department of the Interior and the Advisory Council on Historic Preservation."
Read more at:
http://indiancountrytodaymedianetwork.com/2016/08/20/dakota-access-pipeline-standing-rock-sioux-issue-urgent-appeal-united-nations-human

When we were there, it was said that there were over 40 different Native American tribes represented - standing with Standing Rock Sioux Tribe and as of today 60 are represented. So far, I have seen very little coming out of the major media outlets and what is being reported is so disappointing. The coverage I have seen depict a tale of chaos, violence, and unorganized large gatherings. In fact, as we were driving, the Governor had declared a state of emergency and we were not sure what to expect, but we continued on.
What we witnessed was the complete opposite. After 12 hours of being on the road and having to replace two tires, we finally arrived right before sunset at the Red Warrior Camp. As we pulled in, we were greeted with volunteer security (young men) and they raised their fist - we found a spot to park and then quickly set up our tent. We walked around, gathered by the fire, listened to elders speaking of peace and the importance of this fight. We strolled back to our tent and met Ruben, a native american who welcomed us, asked if we needed anything, told us where to get fire wood and that he would help us dig a fire pit and what has transpired since he has been at the camp.
Then we had two more groups pulled about an hour after us and set up next to us. The hubs help set up the tent with one and we traded some food with the others, then once the sun set - we all gathered around the fire and talked.
We talked about why we were all here - the importance of the issue and the significance, not just for today, but for future generations. We shared, we laughed, we connected and those are the stories that are not being shared. Not once did I feel uncomfortable or feared for my safety or my kids because we did bring them. In the morning, we headed down for the water prayer and support the water warriors - as more and more people started to show up, I spotted two officers standing across the bank and it was in that moment that I got nervous. What were they going to do, but after standing there for about 15 minutes they departed.
It was a privilege to bear witness and be part of this significant moment - tribes from all over the United States, Canada and non-natives coming together to stand in solidarity - sharing prayers, sharing stories, but all wanting the same thing, to protect our water.
We need strong leaders willing to take a stand, willing to protect our natural resources, willing to do what others may not want to do.
Here are just a few of the photos: